Not everyone deserves to be around you physically and emotionally
Do you ever find yourself lying in bed endlessly thinking about what someone thinks about you?
Do you dissect conversations and messages?
Avoid posting an offer or image for fear of what others may say?
Are you letting the opinions of others impact your life?
If so, you’re not alone
Many business owners spend far too much time worrying about being judged. As a consequence, they stop showing up authentically, avoid taking risks and hold themselves back from opportunities that could transform their lives and businesses.
Constantly living in a place of fear will drastically affect your mental health, it happens slowly without us realising until one day we are at rock bottom and lack the confidence and self-esteem we once had.
This in turn will affect your business, imposter syndrome will kick in and you will avoid reaching for your goals for fear what others may say.
The irony?
The people whose opinions you are most worried about are often not even your ideal clients.
So why does their opinion even matter?
Learning to trust yourself and believe in your own decisions can take some practice but doing so increases your strength as an entrepreneur.
Why Do We Care What Others Think?
As humans, weโre wired for connection and belonging. Wanting acceptance is completely normal.
The challenge comes when fear of judgement starts making our decisions for us.
We all have different experiences, values and beliefs. Expecting everyone to think the same way would be unrealistic. In fact, bringing different perspectives together helps us grow and better understand the world around us.
I remember a phrase from one of my previous coaches that has always stayed with me:
โTheir opinion is their truth. It doesnโt have to be yours.โ
When someone has a different viewpoint, it doesnโt automatically make them right or wrong. It simply reflects their experiences and beliefs.
Recognising this can be incredibly freeing.
Here are 5 ways you can stop worrying about what others think, in order that you can move forwards and upwards. Oh if you prefer video click below to watch my YouTube video.
Focus On Your Own Unique Experiences
I remember a phrase by one of my previous coaches that has really stuck with me and that is when someone has a difference of opinion to us, thatโs ok.
Recognising their view is their truth; it doesnโt mean you need to agree with them.
We are all different, have unique experiences and values so why would it be normal for everyone to think and feel the same?
Bringing different experiences and perspectives together enables us to grow as valuable people of society.
It is common to encounter disagreements with others on various topics, listening and understanding those differences in turn helps you understand the world more.
Accept That Not Everyone Will Like You
Have you ever sat there replaying a conversation over and over in your head?
Convinced that the other party is upset or you said something wrong.
Or you donโt post something for fear of what others may say?
Instead accept not everyone will like you.
This might sound harsh, but itโs actually liberating. No matter what you do, there will always be people who disagree with you, misunderstand you or simply donโt connect with your personality.
Thatโs not a reflection of your worth.
You imagine them looking at your content and making judgements.
Whereas the truth often is that others do not care enough to be bothered. They are getting on with their own lives.ย
So why are you letting this stop you? And who even cares if they are consuming your content?
The goal isnโt to be liked by everyone. The goal is to be authentically yourself and attract the people who do resonate with who you are.
Say Yes to Joy
Those who know me will know my personal motto:
โDoes it bring me joy?โ
Learning to say no to people, opportunities and situations that arenโt aligned with your values is incredibly empowering.
This brings the power back to you.
You deserve to be happy.
Say yes to the opportunities that excite you.
Say no to the people who drain your energy, are negative and toxic.
The more you care about what everyone thinks, the more power you hand over to them.
Take stock of the people you spend the most time with.
Do they encourage you?
Do they support your growth?
Do they celebrate your wins?
Or are they constantly pulling you backwards?
Who brings you the joy and encouragement that you need?
Ask Yourself If Youโre Amplifying Your Own Fears
Sometimes the judgement weโre afraid of isnโt coming from anyone else.
Itโs coming from us.
Our subconscious is telling us its ok not to do the โthingโ. Itโs giving us permission not to move forwards.
When we fear launching something new, increasing our prices, becoming more visible or trying something different, our subconscious mind often creates stories to keep us safe.
We never fear judgement on areas of life and business we are fully confident in.
The fear of judging is only ever on those subconscious fears.
We convince ourselves people will judge us.
We tell ourselves weโre not ready.
We find reasons to delay taking action.
In reality, these fears often reflect our own doubts rather than anyone elseโs opinions.
By working on your confidence, mindset and subconscious beliefs, you can move forward with greater freedom and self-belief.
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Learn The Difference Between Criticism And Feedback
Being consciously aware of your thoughts is essential for your inner strength.
When self-doubt appears, donโt ignore it.
Instead, get curious.
Ask yourself:
- Is this thought helping me grow?
- Is this fear based on fact or assumption?
- What evidence do I have that this is true?
And if someone has genuinely said something about you or your business, pause before reacting emotionally.
Are they criticising you?
Or are they offering constructive feedback?
There is a significant difference.
As a consultant, my role is often to offer honest feedback that helps clients improve and grow. Whilst it may feel uncomfortable at times, constructive criticism can be one of the fastest routes to progress.
Closing thoughts
Remember:
- You cannot control other peopleโs opinions.
- Perfection does not exist.
- Mistakes are part of growth.
- Not every opinion deserves your attention.
- Mindset matters just as much as strategy.
- The people who genuinely support you are worth focusing on.
Most importantly, remember that not everyone deserves access to you physically or emotionally.
Protect your energy.
Trust yourself.
Back yourself.
Increase the joy.
And keep moving forward.
A Simple Exercise When Youโre Worried About Being Judged
The next time you find yourself worrying about what someone thinks, ask yourself:
- Whose opinion am I worried about?
- Have they achieved what I want to achieve?
- Are they someone I respect?
- Will this matter in 12 months?
- What would I do if I wasnโt worried about being judged?
The answers are often incredibly revealing.
Ready To Build More Confidence?
If fear of judgement, limiting beliefs or self-doubt are holding you back, my retreats are designed to help creative business owners reconnect with their confidence, gain clarity and move forward with renewed purpose.
And if youโre looking for personalised support and accountability, explore my 1:1 consulting programmes where we work together to overcome the blocks standing between you and your goals.
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