Not everyone deserves to be around you physically and emotionally
Sometimes we fear what other people think about us and worry constantly, as a consequence we end up not showing up authentically or we simply don’t try different things (new businesses, services or even social media posts) because we think we’ll be judged.
Do you ever find yourself lying in bed endlessly thinking about what someone thinks about you? Do you dissect conversations and messages? Avoid posting an offer or image for fear of what others may say? Are you letting the opinions of others impact your life?
Constantly living in a place of fear will drastically affect your mental health, it happens slowly without us realising until one day we are at rock bottom and lack the confidence and self-esteem we once had. This in turn will affect your business, imposter syndrome will kick in and you will avoid reaching for your goals for fear what others may say, who in all honesty, are not even your ideal paying client! So why does their opinion even matter? Learning to love yourself and believe in your own decisions can take some practice but doing so increases your strength as an entrepreneur.
Here are 5 ways you can stop worrying about what others think, in order that you can move forwards and upwards. Oh if you prefer video click below to watch my YouTube video.
I remember a phrase by one of my previous coaches that has really stuck with me and that is when someone has a difference of opinion to us, that’s ok. Recognising their view is their truth; it doesn’t mean you need to agree with them.
We are all different, have unique experiences and values so why would it be normal for everyone to think and feel the same?
Bringing different experiences and perspectives together enables us to grow as valuable people of society. It is common to encounter disagreements with others on various topics, listening and understanding those differences in turn helps you understand the world more.
People are just not into you
Have you ever sat there replaying a conversation over and over in your head? Convinced that the other party is upset or you said something wrong. Or you don’t post something for fear of what others may say?
People are not thinking about you quite as much as you assume. You imagine them looking at everything and making judgements. Whereas the truth often is that others do not care enough to be bothered. They are getting on with their own lives. They probably don’t even see let alone read the content you put out there. So why are you letting this stop you? And who even cares if they are consuming your content?
Say yes to joy
I’ve spoken before about how my motto in life is “does it bring me joy”. Learn to say no to things and people that are not aligned. This brings the power back to you. You deserve to be happy so say yes to opportunities that bring you that happiness. And say no to people that ooze negativity and toxicity. The more you care what others think, the more they own you. So take stock of where you are spending time and with whom, are you immersing yourself with those that life you up, or those that drag you down? Who brings you the joy and encouragement that you need
Are you the problem?
Sometimes we when we fear other people’s judgement, it’s not so much fearing what they think, but more it is amplifying our OWN fears. Our subconscious is telling us its ok not to do the “thing”. It’s giving us permission not to move forwards.
We never fear judgement on areas of life and business we are fully confident in. The fear of judging is only ever on those subconscious fears. Judgement is nothing to do with anyone else; it is to do with us in our subconscious mind. By working on our subconscious mind we are able to fully move forwards, learn to love ourselves and live more freely.
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Being consciously aware of your thoughts is essential for your inner strength. We all experiences times of self-doubt, worrying about launching something due to what we perceive others may say. Instead of ignoring this feeling and hoping it will simply disappear. Take the power back, acknowledge your feelings and observe them as an outsider. Ask yourself if these thoughts help or hinder your growth?
If someone has indeed said something about you or your business, are they right? Take the emotion out and instead internally analyse what they have said. Is there some truth? Were they criticising or offering constructive criticism, there is a difference.
My role as a consultant is to be honest with clients; with their permission I often critique areas they may wish to tweak going forward. Understanding this and taking action will help you scale instead of remaining stationary.
Accept you cannot control other peoples opinions on you or what you doRemember perfectionism is not a reality, mistakes can and do happenConsider the person whose views you are worried about, should you even care about their opinion?Understand that working on your mindset and confidence is essential when owning a business, all the strategy in the world won’t bring you success if your mindset is weakSurround yourself with a community of supportive cheerleaders, whether a coach, mentor, mastermind group or membership. There are many people who love and support you so go find them
Want to go deeper on your limiting beliefs? Join me for a FREE 5 day workshop where I work with you on your subconscious, smashing through the blocks that are holding you back from scaling your creative business. Imagine how would it feel to start quarter 2 with increased confidence and knowledge on how to scale your business?
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